Dear Diane: Husband a ‘lying loser’

Wed., April 18, 2007

Diane Verhoeven King Features Syndicate

Dear Diane: I have a problem with my husband, “Rupert.” He lies about everything.

It’s as if lying is in his blood. He gets hateful to me if other women he knows are around me. I can’t have any friends. And if a man speaks to me, he gets very mean and angry.

I told him I wanted to get a job to help out with our bills. He went through the roof, yelling about how my place is in the house, taking care of our children. But Diane, he hardly gives me enough money for the house!

Rupert won’t spend time with our children. He leaves his dirty clothes and food lying around the house. I feel like I am nothing but his maid, babysitter and sex slave.

He told me that I should feel lucky that he wants to have sex with me because I can’t do any better than him, and if I don’t sleep with him, he’ll just go out get himself a prostitute.

I’m sick of this, Diane. What can I do to change Rupert?

— Trapped in Tennessee

Dear Trapped: Rupert is a controlling, manipulative and potentially abusive man. You can’t change him. He will continue to make your life a living hell, and I guarantee you things will only get worse.

You need to find yourself a lawyer and get a divorce. Cut this man out of your life the same way you’d have a surgeon remove a cancerous tumor — because that’s exactly what Rupert is, a cancer on your life and your children’s.

Rupert is a liar — as you’ve said. And the biggest lie he told you was that you can’t do better than him. Baloney. Go out and find a man you will treat you with the love and respect you deserve.

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