It’s not ‘go to hell,’ it’s ‘just go’

Dear Diane: I have been talking to someone for at least three years — mostly telephone conversations. We are both church people. He is a preacher, and I am a Christian, too.

I have only been kissed on the lips two times and have gotten six hugs from this man. He has never been to my house. We have gone from calling each other every night, to him not calling me at all. I am the one who has to make the call.

My heart is telling me to end this relationship.

For two years straight, I have given him presents for Christmas. He has not once said thank you, Merry Christmas, Happy Thanksgiving … nothing. Every time I ask him what he’ll be doing for the holidays, he says he’s spending it with his family.

Does it seem like he’s telling me to go to hell, or what?

— Choir Girl in the South

Dear Choir Girl: I don’t think he wants you to go to hell, but he certainly doesn’t want you around him.

And when he told you he’s spending the holidays with his family, am I to assume you are involved with a married man? If so, For Shame!

Whatever his love situation may be, I think everyone will agree that high on the list is “Not Available for YOU.”

You sound like a sweet girl. Take it from me, forget this man and look for someone who will treat you with the love and respect you deserve. You owe it to yourself.