Learning how to open doors

Monica Brandner has a passion for teaching children and teens, and in her own small way, she wants to change the world. In 1988, Brandner reigned as Mrs. Alaska. From that experience, she learned “how invaluable social skills are,” and she wants to pass that knowledge on to others.

Some years ago, Brandner began investigating the etiquette industry. Looking in the phone book, she found Deborah King’s Final Touch Finishing School in Seattle. Brandner called King, picked her brain, and eventually got trained in the art of etiquette.

Now, Brandner reigns as president of Image by m. brandner, an image and etiquette business located in Juneau, Alaska, and Spokane. Her Web site describes the business as being “based on respect for self, others and property that lead to kindness.”

Brandner sees integrity, virtue and courtesy as qualities not often practiced.

“Since the 1960s we have seen a steady decline in our youth using common courtesies,” she said. “Influences today equate to reality TV shows, MTV, Hollywood, sports stars, teachers, peers and parents. They see rude, disrespectful behavior, anger, selfishness with an entitlement mentality. It is not their fault, it’s ours as adults. We have modeled and allowed what they have become.”

Brandner considers herself a life coach, and it is her mission to teach skills that will open doors and build bridges.

“Opportunities will pass them by if they lack strong social skills,” she said. These skills include thankfulness, kindness, civility, communication, confidence, being gracious and dressing appropriately.

The classes she teaches are for males and females, teens and preteens and include “10 Skills Every Child Should Possess,” “Young Ladies and Gentlemen,” and “Starting Point.”

“I teach children that rude behavior is a silent killer of many relationships and opportunities. Treating parents, family members, peers, teachers, friends and themselves with respect has benefits,” she said. “It helps you feel better about yourself, and, when you feel good about whom you are, you are happier, healthier and impact the world for the better.”

Changing bad habits is always a daunting task, but Brandner is willing to take it on. “I am one woman determined.” Her determination is bringing her to CenterPlace in Spokane Valley where she will be holding classes through Valley Parks and Recreation.

Through her work, Brandner hopes to empower others and therefore change the world.

“Manners or etiquette are the stepping stones to one’s future failure or success,” she said. “It’s about treating others with kindness and respect. It’s empowering.”