Sense & Sensitivity: Love’s compromise starts with wedding

Wed., March 7, 2007

Harriette Cole United Feature Syndicate

Dear Harriette: My fiance and I have recently begun to talk extensively about our wedding, and I now realize we have a serious problem. I have many close female family members and friends, six of whom I want to be in my bridal party. He only has two brothers he wants at his side.

He has friends he could ask to participate but says he just doesn’t think it’s necessary to have more.

I think his number is too low, and he thinks mine is too high. I have already told all six ladies I want them to be in the wedding, and I cannot even begin to think about whom I would cut. Not to mention I don’t think I should have to do that. — Tania, Grand Rapids, Mich.

Dear Tania: Get creative. Perhaps you can give some of the women ancillary roles in the wedding, so everyone has a place of importance.

Or ask him to add one groomsman, and then have two bridesmaids for each groomsman. The group would be lopsided at the altar, but they can recess with two women on each man’s arms.

Being evenly numbered isn’t as important as having those you love participate.

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