Truly, friends forever
Women have shared their lives with each other for more than 70 years
If new friends are silver and old friends are gold, then a group of Valley women have platinum friendships.
Friends for more than 70 years, the group met in kindergarten at Millwood Elementary School in the West Valley School District. They grew up together and maintain their friendships after graduating from high school in 1940 by meeting monthly for lunch.
At first the group included seven or eight friends, said Dolores Keck at a luncheon this fall at Casey’s Place in Spokane Valley. But the toll of time has whittled the group down to a faithful four, all now in their 80s.
“We all stayed together and stayed in touch,” said Ruby Witham. “That’s what brought us close together.”
Their longtime support of each other was evident in the easy laughter and cheerful conversation that ranged from reminiscing about childhood memories to catching up on what’s going on in their lives and the lives of their children and grandchildren today.
“See what I found?” Ruth VanBelle said, pulling a faded green autograph book from her purse.
She passed the book around and they thumbed through the pages filled with quotes and notes written by school chums in 1939. It brought back a lot of memories, but then the luncheons always do bring back memories.
Together they chuckled, remembering how, as teenagers, they sometimes cut school or hitchhiked to town to go to the movies. Keck was the shortest and got in for a mere 5 cents while the rest had to pay a full dime. They talked about swimming in the Spokane River and even in an irrigation canal they dubbed “the ditch.”
“And dang, but none us ever drowned,” said Witham, adding that “those were the good ’ol days.”
The memories flood the conversation that flowed with the sentence finishing comfort of relationships that have deepened with trust and time – where each knows the others well. They remembered when Keck wrote a play and Witham and VanBelle played parts in it.
“They were all fun times,” said VanBelle. “Us girls were so close.”
They remembered how they used to go to the bandstand in Millwood on Thursday nights and how they sometimes played pranks.
Keck recalled the time they shut the lights off at a neighbor’s electrical box and then ran away, laughing while he yelled. They laugh about that still.
The luncheons are a good way to remind each other and remember things, said Keck. They have a lot to remember.
After high school, as the women married, had babies and watched their husbands go off to war, their friendships were a bulwark and outlet. Then they usually met in their homes, each taking a turn to host and the rest bringing their children along to play. Sometimes they’d have a demonstration party, like Tupperware, but the point was fun and friendship.
“I was always amazed and inspired at how through all the chaos and busyness of our lives while she was raising my twin sister and I, she always managed to make time for her friends and her friends did the same,” said Keck’s daughter Lauri Keck.
“We never thought of quitting, even though we lost girls,” said Keck, referring to the friends from the original groups who have died over the years. She said that grieving those friends has brought the four of them even closer.
“We are kind of like sisters,” explained VanBelle. “We had lots of fun and still do.”
The friends all nod in agreement, for their friendship is rich. It is rich in love, rich in laughter. It is richer than silver or gold.