Frightening, , But Positive

Thu., July 13, 1995

Nancy Bloom

Dear Nancy: Lately I’ve been concerned about getting old. I feel like I’ve done nothing careerwise to make a difference in the world and my relationship with my husband is suffering. My husband and my co-workers find me aggressive and controlling. My husband is calling a counselor today. Although I do not have HIV, this dream was a shock. Could it have anything to do with my current problems? -Cindy

I am with a group of women in a small guest cabin. We have all been diagnosed with AIDS. Several of us are very thin and fragile - very ill. “They” (the powers that be) decide that it is time we all die. I look in a mirror, see myself, and say, “I won’t die. I will live and be healthy.” Then I am in another small building watching the guest cabin burn. A terrible wind is blowing. All the debris from the fire is flying toward me and I can’t close the door. I shout for my husband to open a vent to reduce the pressure and he does. I shut the door.

Dear Cindy: Even though this dream was frightening, I see it as very positive. You and the women are in a guest cabin, which is temporary housing, so even though it feels traumatic, this appears to be a temporary situation.

The women are weak and sickly. Are there feminine aspects of your personality that are sick or dying? How about the gentle, nurturing and creative aspects of yourself? Perhaps you have been viewing feminine qualities as sick and weak instead of positive and strong.

The “powers that be” are taking over. These could be the aggressive and controlling behaviors you have adopted. They want all the women dead, but you see yourself in the mirror and proclaim, “I will not die!” This is so positive, Cindy. You are willing to look at yourself and have made the decision to be healthy.

Fire is a symbol of purification and cleansing of old concepts. Your husband helps by opening the vent. This may suggest that by “venting” the issues and your feelings with a counselor, you can prevent being bombarded by the debris or fallout from these your old patterns.

Transformations such as these are never easy, Cindy, but you’ve already made the decision to be healthy in your dream. Now, go for it!

Dear Nancy: I’ve had this dream many times and it always makes me feel so good. What does it mean? - Frieda

I am outside in an area with green fields and fences. I am traveling very quickly in great strides much like a kangaroo. I cover 100 to 200 feet at a hop. I am pleased and exhilarated with this effortlessness and joyous abandon.

Dear Frieda: This dream is in the realm of the mythical and magical. As in flying dreams, you are in an incredible state of expansion. With these effortless leaps you should be able to “rise above” any situation and cross obstacles and normal boundaries suggested by the fences.

This type of dream comes to give us feelings of freedom and dramatic power. May you continue to have this one, Frieda!

Tips for readers: Dreams are not always addressing the parts of our lives we need to work on. At times, we dream of humorous scenes and events to uplift our spirit. Anxiety and fear can be relieved through humor, and humorous dreams can help us “lighten up.” These dreams help us feel safe when we are experiencing anxiety, confusion or turmoil in our lives.

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