Guidelines For Making It Click

You don’t have to be Ann Landers or Dear Abby to give advice. All you have to be is someone who thinks they’ve learned something valuable and would like to pass it on. Here is your advice on making a relationship work …

“Never get too comfortable.”

“Never be in a relationship that is too uncomfortable.”

“Try to remember that we all have white knuckled fears that keep us from moving forward.”

“Try to figure out not what you want, but what you need.”

“Remember: It takes a lifetime to get really good at listening.”

“Remember: Feelings are more important than events. Discuss your feelings, not what happened.”

“Remember: The test of a relationship is how easy it is. You shouldn’t have to force it. If should flow, not drain.”

“Remember: If you do it right the first time, you’ll never have to do it again.”

“Bathe daily.”

“Avoid self-destructive people.”

“Flee from people who see themselves as victims.”

“Life is not fair. Accept it and move on.”

“Seek out those who actively explore their spiritual side.”

“Hugs are not fattening, non-polluting, not taxable, constantly renewable, happily contagious, and do not require batteries or special assembly.”

“Sarcasm is passive-aggressive behavior masquerading as humor.”

“Ditto tickling.”

“Watch your behavior, not when things are going well, but when you’re angry, threatened or frightened.”

“Treat your partner with the same politeness, consideration and good humor you use with the woman behind the counter at the dry cleaners or the washing machine repair guy.”

“Don’t get involved with anyone who never remembers anything you told them.”

“Don’t get involved with anyone who hates to be alone.”

“Don’t get involved with anyone who tells long, boring, complicated jokes.”

“Don’t get involved with anyone who can’t enjoy themselves unless they look perfect.”

“Don’t get involved with anyone who can’t name their two senators.”

“Don’t get involved with anyone who thinks a comic book is a book.”

“Don’t get involved with anyone who doesn’t love ‘Seinfeld.”’ “If you love moonlit walks along the beach, candlelight dinners and slow dancing, do them.”

“Learn to love and then to like yourself before you try to like and love someone else. If you’re not likable or lovable, figure out why and fix it.”

“Put as much energy into your relationship as you do into your career. People change careers 3.5 times in their life, but a good relationship should last forever.”

“Practice random acts of kissing and senseless dancing in the kitchen.”

“Don’t marry the person you think you can live with. Marry the person you can’t live without.”

“Don’t be a slob.”

“Don’t compete with your partner.” “Don’t keep score.”

“Marriage isn’t the beginning or the end of a relationship; it’s a marker along the way.”

“If you’re having sex with two people, that’s two people too many.”

“Create memories and traditions.”

“You’re right: No one will ever love you like your mother. Would you really want them to?”

“Get over yourself.”