Growing up can be painful

Dear Annie: I am almost 14 years old, and I have been feeling really depressed lately. You see, I hate myself – my clothes, my skin, my body, my looks, my glasses, my personality, my life, everything. I am dreading school next year, because I feel invisible there, and when people do notice me, it’s usually in a negative way.

I don’t have much self-esteem or confidence. I feel I have nothing to live for. I have had suicidal thoughts, but I don’t think I could ever follow through. I have considered counseling, but I don’t think it will help, because I can’t see that it will change anything. It’s hard to talk to anyone about this, because they don’t understand what it’s like. Sometimes I just want to give up, because life isn’t worth it. Please help me. I can’t stand this anymore. – Sad

Dear Sad: Your letter is a cry for help, but please know that you are not alone. A lot of kids your age are unhappy with themselves. You are transitioning from childhood into adulthood, and the process can be difficult and sometimes painful. The good news is, it doesn’t last forever and talking to someone about your problems can ease your way. When school is back in session, see your school counselor. But until then, talk to your parents or an adult relative or friend, tell them how you feel and ask for an appointment with a professional. You also can go online and check out kidshealth.org for information on depression. And get some exercise – it raises your endorphin levels and makes you feel better.

Dear Annie: When I was a kid, I was always told that when there is no sidewalk, you should always walk on the side facing oncoming traffic. Is this message still spread today?

I constantly see joggers, mothers with strollers, and kids nearly get run over from behind. They are completely oblivious to oncoming cars. I realize we are accustomed to traveling on the right side of the street, but in the case of pedestrians, I think we should educate children in elementary school to walk against traffic, so they can see danger coming and have a chance to jump out of the way. – Safety First

Dear Safety First: You are right. The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration recommends that in places where there are no sidewalks, pedestrians should walk facing oncoming traffic. Please, readers, educate your children. We want you to be safe.