Annie’s Mailbox : Bike rally photos cause suspicion
Dear Annie: I am seven years older than my husband. It is a second marriage for both of us.
Recently, my husband was at a bike rally and came home with dozens of pictures of women who were nearly naked. There were also photos of him with these women. In one, he is quite snuggly.
I am so torn apart in my heart and jealous. I don’t have the body these filthy women do, but I am not a dog, either. My husband says it was all in good fun and he didn’t cheat on me, but this has shaken me to my bones and I can’t let it go.
How do I regain trust in my husband? He has apologized and deleted the pictures, but I can’t stop wondering what else he did or what he might do in the future.
Why do men think women who show everything are so great? It makes me sick. – Wife Without a Motorcycle
Dear Wife: We don’t believe men think these women are “so great.” The women simply are displaying the goods in a way everyone will notice. Certain events, like bike rallies, tend to bring out this behavior in both men and women. We think your husband was honest about his actions, but it might not be a bad idea to accompany him next time.
Dear Annie: My husband and I are of low-average height, but our 16-year-old daughter is barely 4 feet 11. She is otherwise healthy, pretty and a good student, but she feels that people don’t take her seriously because she looks 12 years old. Socially she is very shy and afraid she will never get a date. To be honest, I am terrified she is right. I want so much for her to be happy. How can we both feel better? – Anxious
Dear Anxious: Yes, your daughter is likely to experience her share of annoyances due to her height, but this should not be cause for concern. Plenty of petite women find mates and have successful careers. Your anxiety can negatively affect how your daughter sees herself, so make a conscious decision to treat this lightly and with humor. Focus on her talents and personality. If she develops confidence and assurance, she will do well, regardless of her stature. Really.
Dear Annie: I read the letter from “Mr. & Mrs. Retired,” who asked if they should give a graduation gift to someone who had received his GED. Thank you for your positive response. As the director and a longtime volunteer at an adult education program, I have to put in my two cents.
Our county holds a GED graduation ceremony every year. The people who receive those diplomas are just as happy and thrilled as the high school students who receive theirs, and yes, they deserve the same recognition. – Pat Purdin, Director, VICTORY Adult Education, Chino Valley, Ariz.