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Poem sums up Christmas wish

Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar The Spokesman-Review

Dear Readers: Merry Christmas. Here’s a lovely poem sent to us by one of our readers:

Christmas Gift Suggestions

by Oren Arnold

To your enemy, forgiveness.

To an opponent, tolerance.

To a friend, your heart.

To a customer, service.

To all, charity.

To every child, a good example.

To yourself, respect.

Dear Annie: I read the letter from “Puzzled and Concerned,” who said a female co-worker wore revealing and inappropriate clothes at work.

My “Aunt Greta” is 73 years old, and I recently saw her at a funeral wearing skintight jeans and a skimpy little top showing her midriff. She is very thin, and the jeans looked sprayed on while the top appeared to belong to a teenager. I was stunned and too embarrassed to introduce her to others.

Greta has very nice clothes that she wears to church and other functions. What she wore to this funeral would have been inappropriate for anyone at any age, but it struck me as particularly inappropriate for a woman of 73.

Greta is very healthy, does not suffer from dementia, is active in her church and community and has a great husband and family, so it is a mystery why she would wear such clothes. Other relatives told me that Greta has dressed this way at funerals they have attended in the past.

I don’t mean to sound judgmental. I love my aunt and she is a good person. Should I approach her about this sensitive subject? – Stunned Relative

Dear Relative: Apparently, this get-up is Greta’s funeral outfit. You may be wrong about dementia, and you could try explaining nicely that such inappropriate clothing makes her look foolish and is disrespectful to the deceased’s family, but it probably won’t help. It could be Greta’s way of defying death or it might simply be a desperate grab for attention, but unless someone laughs in her face, she will interpret your criticism as jealousy. Leave her alone.

Dear Annie: This is in response to “Aging with Dignity,” who said an old acquaintance was poking fun at her husband’s bald head. Were her comments intended to be humorous or meant to hurt? That dictates how to handle the situation.

Her husband can defuse anything hurtful by poking fun at himself. He could rub his hand over his head and state how much money he saves on haircuts. My dad used to say he couldn’t have both hair and brains. – PMC