This young hottie headed for hot water

Dear Diane: My 16-year-old son, “Dylan,” is very mature for his age — or rather he matured early. He looks like a college student instead of a teenager. He is also a handsome young man. As a result, he has no trouble finding young women to date.

Which brings me to my dilemma. I know for a fact that Dylan is out having sex with these women — mostly college co-eds, I might add. I don’t approve of his promiscuity, but there’s no way I can stop him. Oh sure, I could lock him in his bedroom until he’s 18, but honestly …

How can I make sure that Dylan is always using the proper protection so he doesn’t get some girl pregnant or catch some horrible disease? Right now, I don’t know if he’s protecting himself, and I am scared to death of what could happen.

For me, it’s not a matter of “if” but “when” the horrible becomes reality. Any help you can give me would be appreciated.

— Cringing in Carlsbad

Dear Cringing:

You already know the solution, but if you need me to say it, so be it:

TALK TO YOUR SON!

Sit him down and calmly but firmly explain to him that you are aware of his sexual activity. Let Dylan know that although you do not approve of him “sowing his wild oats,” you are also aware that you are powerless to do anything about it.

That said, ask him if he always uses protection. Also tell him that if he isn’t or doesn’t know how to use it, you will either give him the information and the condoms, or set up a meeting with your family doctor to explain everything (including STDs).

Good luck. I’m sure a straightforward talk will help alleviate some of your worries.