Dear Diane: Please help me. My fiance, family and friends are all conspiring to ruin my wedding day. No one understands that this is My Day and it must be perfect.
I have chosen a gown design and the designer is charging only $12,000. I’ve chosen the perfect cathedral. Because it is in another state, everyone will need to fly to attend the ceremony, but I think that is a small price to pay.
My parents refuse to pay for any of this, and my fiance, “Ted,” said he isn’t going to put a second mortgage on his condo to help with the cost. I am shocked and angry with Ted because of this. If he doesn’t support me now, how can I trust him to support me when we’re married?
Because the wedding will cost at least $75,000, I am asking everyone who attends to donate $500. Now my friends are saying they can’t afford to give me $500, travel out of state and then buy me a wedding gift. Don’t these people realize this is My Day? My Special Day?
I can’t see why everyone is trying to ruin my wedding. I can only think that the reason is because they are all jealous. What can I do to convince them to put aside their jealousy and support my vision? — Bride-to-Be in Birmingham
I’ve seen my share of Bridezillas over the years, but you take the cake. There is nothing more trashy than forcing your family and friends to subsidize your puerile princess fantasies. I hope Ted’s eyes are opened to the kind of selfish child you are and has the good sense to dump you.
The rule of thumb when planning a wedding is to have the wedding you can afford. You shouldn’t go into debt for a wedding; for goodness sakes, don’t charge people to attend. Show some class.
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