AGING UNGRACEFULLY

’Tis the holiday season, and there’s Nanna getting into the eggnog and batting her eyes. Or Pops, with a face as red as Santa Claus, refilling his glass, laughing a little too much.

Nice that the old folks are having such a good time! They’ve worked hard for so many years. Now they can loosen up and be kids again.

So what if they get a little looped at the New Year’s Eve party?

So a lot.

No one wants to be the Grinch with an edict of joyless Puritanism. But for many people, drinking and aging don’t mix.

An estimated one-third of older Americans who abuse alcohol or drugs don’t develop a problem until after they are 50.

Some have a genetic blueprint for addiction that gets activated in later years. Others slip into a pattern of what researchers call hazardous substance abuse: a level of consumption and a pattern of drinking that puts an older person at risk for health problems and injuries.

“People increase drinking after they retire; they drink because of loneliness, in response to life events such as the death of a spouse,” Houston physician John W. Culberson told an informal group on elder addiction at a recent meeting of the Gerontological Society of America.

But doctors generally don’t screen for problem drinking, and families would rather ignore it. After all, Dad has been doing fine for 70 years, and Mom never drank much before. How could there be a problem now?

“There’s not a lot of motivation to do anything about it,” Culberson says.

Abuse of alcohol and legal drugs (prescribed and over-the-counter) affect up to 17 percent of adults age 60 or older, according to government figures.

Unlike younger substance abusers, who get in trouble with the law or jeopardize their jobs and antagonize their families, older abusers often go unnoticed. They may no longer be employed; they may live alone. Who is there to detect a problem?

Physiologically, older people are less able to hold their liquor. With the loss of body mass and decrease of water in the body, they tend to develop a higher concentration of alcohol in the blood when they drink.

Kidneys and livers are not as efficient in removing alcohol from the blood. One drink in a a youth may amount to two drinks in an older person.

In addition, many older men and women are taking medications (for heart disease, sleep disorders, pain and anxiety, for example) that interact badly with alcohol and with one another.

It’s one thing for parents to intervene with a teenager who is failing out of school or has been picked up by the police, but not so easy for adult children to confront an older parent who raised them, whose authority in the family is well established, who can point to decades of success on the job.

But it may be up to adult children and grandchildren to get a tippling Granny or boozing Gramps on the right track.

Late-onset substance abuse is often linked to depression. It also has a socio-spiritual component.

“People come to Florida to live out the American dream,” says Carol Colleran, director of Older Adult Services for the Hanley-Hazelden Center in West Palm Beach. “They retire and play golf. They have a clubhouse. Then they find out it’s not as fulfilling as they thought it would be.”

The common refrain she hears at the center is: “I lost my sense of purpose. I don’t feel needed anymore. Nobody asks me questions.”

So they go to round-robin cocktail parties with other retirees who have lost their sense of purpose, or they sit quietly in front of the TV, watching classic movies and sipping beer or bourbon or cheap pinot grigio.

“We spend considerable time on financial planning, but we spend very little time or money on emotional-retirement planning,” adds Colleran, co-author with Debra Jay of the Hazelden Guidebook titled “Aging & Addiction: Helping Older Adults Overcome Alcohol or Medication Dependence” (Hazelden, 2002).

The good news is that treatment for late-onset substance abuse can be quite effective.

Older people tend to have good coping skills, and their support network of family and friends is usually intact. They are more likely to recover and change their drinking behavior than younger abusers, Colleran says.

It’s all about building a new life in these later years. That’s something to cheer at the holiday party. It’s part of the seasonal message of hope.