Dear Annie: I lost my only daughter in a terrible car accident two weeks ago. My friends and family were so supportive. I received many flowers, cards, food and even money. I placed an ad in the newspaper, thanking everyone for their prayers and support. Should I have taken the time to send each one a personal thank-you card? – Widowed Mom
Dear Mom: Our condolences on your terrible loss. While the newspaper ad was a reasonable idea, rules of etiquette say that anyone who did a kindness for you, or sent flowers, money or handwritten condolence notes, should be thanked with a handwritten note of your own. (Cards with no personal message do not require an acknowledgment.) You also can use pre-printed acknowledgment cards if you write a short personal note on them. If this is too overwhelming, ask a relative or friend to help write these notes on your behalf.
Dear Annie: I want to respond to “Sleepless in Salem, Ore.,” whose husband has terrible sleep apnea and refuses to see a doctor. Five years ago, I shared a hotel room with my sister. She was awakened by my snoring and, while she was up, counted the seconds between breaths. The next day, she told me I often went 40 seconds without breathing and then gasped for air.
When I returned home, I did a sleep study (insurance paid for it). The doctor said I woke up 248 times and was a good candidate for a heart attack. On the CPAP machine, however, I was in deep sleep. It was the first time in years that I felt rested. Shame on you for telling her to give up by sleeping in another room and making sure his insurance is paid up. Hopefully, her husband will see this and realize he’s risking his life and the lives of those around him. – CPAP User
Dear CPAP User: We hope he’ll realize it, too, but he isn’t as willing as you to get help, which is why we told our reader to take care of herself just in case. It has nothing to do with giving up. It’s for her protection.
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