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Annie’s Mailbox: Deadbeat nephew not your problem

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Dear Annie: My nephew “Ken” is 29 years old, a high-school graduate and still lives at home with his mother – along with his pit bull that his mother reluctantly takes care of. Ken periodically works as a carpenter and has racked up a lot of debt. He is also an alcoholic.

My sister is single and helps him financially but does not have the money to continue. Ken broke his hip last year while riding with a friend who was drunk. He recovered but is unable to climb ladders. His attorney told him not to work since they are suing the insurance company. Now Ken mows my mother’s lawn or does odd jobs for a little spending cash. He is not happy, and my sister is miserable. She claims she feels too guilty to kick him out, and his grandmother has already offered to let him move in with her if necessary. Is there any hope for this man? – Concerned Aunt

Dear Aunt: When Mom and Grandma get tired of supporting a grown man, they will cut him loose. That will provide the incentive for him to grow up, although the longer they wait the harder it will be for Ken. We know you find this situation frustrating, but please stay out of it. These are not your choices to make.

Dear Annie: My blood pressure rose after reading your response to “New York Employee,” whose elderly boss berates the staff.

The federal government has imposed rules and regulations for companies. The boss has created a hostile work environment at the company using intimidation tactics. The employees can file charges with the EEOC and labor board.

Illegal practices are not tolerated in a work environment. Employees have rights. – Research Assistant in Buffalo, N.Y.

Dear Buffalo: You have stated a common misperception (which we, too, have made). It is illegal for a boss to create a hostile work environment based on someone’s race, color, religion, sex, national origin, disability or age. It does not protect employees from a boss who is an equal-opportunity pain in the behind. Sorry.

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