Reach birth father through siblings

Dear Annie: My husband was given up for adoption 61 years ago. Recently, a change in adoption laws permitted him to obtain a copy of his original birth certificate. Through the Internet, I learned that his birth parents married and had four other children. His birth mother is deceased, but his birth father lives nearby, as do three of the siblings.

Two months ago, through an attorney, we contacted the father and asked for a medical history. We also said that my husband would be willing to see him. There has been no response. The father is 87, so there’s not a lot of time to lose.

My husband feels rejected and says to let it go. But he’s waited such a long time that I think he should try again, perhaps via the siblings. What do you say? – Still Waiting

Dear Waiting: It’s possible the father is ill or otherwise incapable of responding. Having a relationship is beside the point. A medical history is a reasonable request and is important to have. If you can contact the siblings, we think you should do so. Good luck.

Dear Annie: I read the letter from “Tom,” who is upset because his girlfriend still lists herself as “single” on Facebook. An engagement ring on the left hand third finger would probably compel her to change her status. Until then, she is, in fact, single. – Propose Already

Dear Propose: Yes, of course, but there is a variety of ways to list your status on Facebook, including “in a relationship.” If a girlfriend of eight months insists on being “single,” they don’t have a promising future.