Don’t hide date with friend’s crush

Dear Annie: My friend and I like the same guy. She’s having a party, and “Mike” is on the guest list. Mike has been dropping hints that he’d like me to be his date to the party.

As much as I would love to go with him, I don’t know if I should. I don’t want to ruin a friendship. But I also don’t want him to think I’m not interested. I really like this guy. What should I do? – Confused Crush

Dear Confused: This is one of those situations in which, no matter what you do, someone will be unhappy. The fact that your friend has a crush on the same guy doesn’t mean he is interested in her, and your social life should not revolve around her preferences. If the situation were reversed, would she bow out for your sake? Would you want her to? You could tell Mike you’re going to the party anyway, and an official “date” is unnecessary. But it’s best to be honest and not date Mike behind your friend’s back.

Dear Annie: I read the letter from “California,” who was upset because her husband destroys her cookware. My husband and I have been married almost 50 years. He spent 22 years in the military as a chaplain. He promised that when he retired, he would do the cooking. (His experience consisted of using his Army field hat to cook C-rations.)

He now cooks, vacuums and sometimes does the laundry. And yes, he has broken dishes, and on occasion, the food he makes is not palatable. Sometimes he ruins the laundry. But I praise God that I have a husband who is so loving and caring and willing to do these things. Together we laugh it off, and I say, “I needed some pink panties” or “We could use some new dishes.” He’s 73 with kidney disease, and I might not have him much longer. So, “California,” be thankful your husband wants to cook for you. He does it because he loves you. Dishes and pans are easily replaced, but a good husband is a jewel to be kept. – Wouldn’t Trade Mine in Pennsylvania