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Annie’s Mailbox: Friend suffers abuse from son

Kathy Mitchell/Marcy Sugar Kathy Mitchell

Dear Annie: I have a friend in Alabama who is being physically and mentally abused by her adult son. I’ve called domestic abuse hotlines for information, and I gave my friend a phone number to call in case she needed someone to talk to. She seemed happy that I was looking out for her, and that I had her in my thoughts and prayers. Unfortunately, two weeks ago, I lost contact with her and don’t know where to turn. I’ve sent emails, texts and letters and have made phone calls, but haven’t heard anything back.

To say I’m worried would be an understatement. Any advice would be helpful. – Concerned Friend in Warren, Ohio

Dear Concerned: We shudder to think of the devastating scenarios that are possible. Please contact the Alabama Adult Protective Services hotline at (800) 458-7214 and ask them to investigate the situation. We hope your friend is OK.

Dear Annie: I really enjoyed your response to “Worried Hubby,” whose wife receives a lot of flirtatious attention from “Harry” when they eat out.

I have been in situations where men have approached me like this. My husband makes sure he is nearby and always strikes up a conversation with the guy. Later, when we are alone, my husband compliments me and says he understands why I attract other men. He then tells me how lucky he is to be married to me.

I also have had the situation reversed and have seen women be attracted to my husband. It serves as a reminder of all his great qualities and of why I married him. I remember to compliment him, as well. I also make sure that I keep things special in our marriage by being an attentive “girlfriend.” – Iola, Wis.

Dear Iola: Although it is important that neither spouse enjoys the attention of others too much, you are wise to understand how flirting with your partner can keep a marriage fresh.