Drugs hamper husband’s libido

Dear Annie: I am married to the greatest woman in the world. Several years ago, while still in my 20s, I discovered I have a heart condition that requires a lot of medications. I will be dealing with it my entire life.

The problem is that lately my libido seems to be almost not there. My wife takes the brunt of my failure in the bedroom and often remarks that I don’t find her attractive. But I do. I am more in love with her now than when we married.

We want children, and obviously, this hampers my ability to reproduce. I’ve been thinking about adoption. With my limitations, how do I make my wife feel as amazing as she is? – Want To Feel Young Again

Dear Want: Please make an appointment to see your doctor, and ask about changing your medications. Sometimes a little tweaking can work wonders. More importantly, take your wife with you so the doctor can explain how certain medications might interfere with your sex life. There is no reason for her to take this so personally. Frank and frequent communication is the best way to handle it, and work on other ways to make your wife feel amazing in the bedroom.

Dear Annie: Like “Undecided Mom,” I have boxes of childhood memorabilia for my grown children, who now have children of their own. Instead of continuing to store their stuff, I’ve been “gifting” them with a year’s worth of their childhood at a time.

When my daughter’s first baby was born, I gave her everything I’d saved from her own first year. I loved looking through it. When that first grandchild entered fourth grade last fall, he thought it was great to see his mom’s old report cards, projects and pictures from when she was his age. We’ve shared a lot of laughs and memories this way. – Memory Lane Traveler