Annie’s Mailbox: Couple has stayed longer than welcome

Fri., Oct. 30, 2015

Dear Annie: An acquaintance recently lost his job, and we invited him and his wife to move into our home on a temporary basis. We all agreed they would live with us until one of them found another professional position.

It’s been three months, but it’s already uncomfortable. “Sue” and ”Bob” do small household chores and pay a minimal amount in rent, but that doesn’t counteract the interruption they have added to our lives. They have taken over the fridge, the cabinets, the laundry room, the living space and the kitchen. We have no private time anymore and cannot trust them to lock doors or turn off the dryer or coffeemaker when they leave. They parade around the house seminude, make a lot of noise when we’re sleeping and talk while we are reading or watching TV.

We have discussed these issues and others as they have come up, but it hasn’t helped. We’ve asked them to keep out of our bedrooms and home office, but the other day I found both of them coming out of the office. We do not want to put locks all over.

They are supposedly applying for jobs, but so far haven’t found anything that pays what they feel they deserve. We worry we’ll be stuck with them forever. They have severance pay, unemployment and money from family. They spend it on manicures, personal trainers and new electronics. Here’s the kicker: They are seeking a divorce.

How do we tell them they have overstayed their welcome? – Bad Roomies

Dear Roomies: You need to set a deadline and stick to it. Tell Sue and Bob that you hadn’t anticipated the job search would take so long and you can no longer accommodate them. Give them one month. Bring home boxes so they can pack. At the end of the deadline, if they make no attempt to leave, tell them you will put their belongings on the front steps. Then change your locks.

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