Working Out Unfinished Business

Thu., Dec. 14, 1995

Nancy Huseby Bloom The Spokesma

Dear Nancy: In the past six months I’ve lost my husband of 48 years and my mother. Although they seemed healthy, both died suddenly of heart attacks. I have had recurring dreams trying to find my husband, and finally, in this one I did. What do you think it means? - Mary

I am in a small building and I see a wooden door with a hook that is fastened on it. Someone is on the other side of the door, trying to open it, pushing and rattling the hook. I see that it is my mother. I become angry with her and tell her to go away. Then the door is pushed open a crack. I see my husband’s hand and I grab it and kiss it as he draws me nearer. They want me to come with them.

Dear Mary: Dreams of this nature always bring to mind the question “Was this a normal dream experience or a ‘visitation dream’ in which our loved ones actually do break through the doors that separate the world of the departed and our world?”

Dreams express our feelings and thoughts around unfinished and unresolved emotions. Searching for a loved one who has passed on suddenly certainly fits in with this idea. In this instance you found your husband and made contact. This may be part of your grieving and healing process, and will help relieve distressing feelings of abandonment by giving you a sense of contact and connection.

I hope I’ve helped you recognize this process, Mary, and that you continue to work with your dreams.

Tips for readers: How do we know whether our dreams are telepathic in nature or normal dream experiences? At times, we all pick up information on a psychic level that is addressing outside events or other people’s emotions. I have had dreams of earthquakes and national tragedies, gotten up in the morning, and seen these events announced in the news. It seems that when we’re sleeping, our psyche is more flexible and open to outside information. This information filters in through the dream state.

One point to consider is that emotional connection between people seems to provide an avenue for a psychic connection. There are many examples of people accurately dreaming of their loved ones in a crisis or disaster. Information is also shared in the dream state as in a “visitation” dream, when a loved one, who has passed on, comes to reassure that he is actually well and happy. These dreams are more common than one would suppose and provide great comfort and healing in times of grief.

We can also have lots of interesting dreams about friends and loved ones and not consider them to be anything out of the ordinary. By sharing these dreams with the person dreamed of, you may find that sometimes the person has actually had that experience or literally had the same dream. I know a woman who was given an interpretation of her friend’s dream in a dream!

By paying attention to our dreams and being aware of events and people around us, we can more easily determine whether a dream is actually telepathic or not. At times there is really no absolute answer and no real way to “test” the dream for telepathy. Examine your feelings about the truth of the dream and whether it feels like a genuine connection. Check with the people you dream about to verify and confirm your dream experience.

We are all connected, and most powerfully to our loved ones. As we open up our minds and hearts to our dream world, we will recognize that our connections extend outward, beyond our friends and loved ones, and actually encompass the world.

xxxx

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