Dear Annie: My husband and I are both in our 40s. We have always had a good marriage and have been blessed with three wonderful children.
Last weekend, while searching for some important papers, I was shocked to find my husband’s secret collection of women’s fashion catalogs. There was no pornography, but after looking at some of the pictures he had clipped, it became obvious that he has a fetish for women wearing leather, high-heeled boots and other provocative outfits.
Initially, I was angry and hurt, but I cooled off. I confronted my husband, and he apologized. He got rid of the pictures and assured me he loves only me. He even sent me flowers the next day. However, I just received a rather large package in the mail. I was shocked to find inside a black leather miniskirt, satin camisole, thigh-high boots and fishnet stockings, accompanied by a rather suggestive note from my husband. I told him I could never wear anything like this, and he responded, “Just wear it in the bedroom.”
I want to fulfill my husband’s sexual needs, but I worry he will be disappointed when he sees me wearing such a revealing outfit. I’m not as svelte as I once was. What should I do? – A Self-Conscious Wife
Dear Wife: Wear it anyway. Your husband is giving you the chance to fulfill his fantasies. He wants to see the woman he loves in the get-up of his dreams. To him, you are sexy, and dressed in those clothes, you would be irresistible. We say, turn down the lights and give it your best shot.
Dear Annie: You recently printed a letter from Dr. Henry Lynch about the importance of women knowing their risk for breast cancer. I was disappointed that he failed to mention that men, too, can be victims of breast cancer.
I went to my doctor for a minor cold and mentioned that my breast was tender and I had noticed secretions from my nipple. He immediately did a breast exam and discovered a lump. It was surgically removed, and thankfully, it wasn’t cancerous.
Annie, please inform your readers that men can also be victims of invasive breast lumps, both cancerous and noncancerous. – A Surprised Male Reader
Dear Surprised: You are correct. Although not as common, men also can be diagnosed with breast cancer, most often between the ages of 60 and 70. All men should have their breasts checked regularly, and if you notice any unusual lumps or discharge, inform your doctor immediately.
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