Annie’s Mailbox: His fixation normal trait

Dear Annie: I am an attractive male in my 40s, and believe it or not, I am having trouble finding a lady for a good relationship. The reason will probably surprise you. It’s because my sex drive is abnormally high. I am aroused more than a dozen times a week.

I would be terribly embarrassed to talk about this. I am afraid that if I become intimate with a female, she would not have the stamina to keep up with me. Don’t get me wrong. I am not a pervert, nor do I get off on porn or anything like that. It’s just that often, I feel insatiable. I also should mention that my ring finger is longer than my index finger. I read somewhere that this is an indication of a high sex drive.

Is there any type of treatment or medication that could help curb my sex drive into a more normal state? – K.D. in Omaha

Dear K.D.: You can stop bragging now. According to the Kinsey Institute, 54 percent of men think about sex every day or several times a day. That puts you in the majority. Other studies show almost all heterosexual males have a ring finger longer than the index finger (except, for some reason, men who teach science and math. Go figure). So, apparently, you are quite normal. If this has been a source of concern for you, we hope you will now put it aside and feel free to pursue a relationship. If you are “too much” for a woman, she will let you know.

Dear Annie: When our son was 2 years old, he tripped and fell next to our in-laws’ dog. The dog bit him in the face. We were lucky that the wound healed and there is little scarring. We know accidents happen.

Here is the problem. When we went to visit my in-laws the following week, they refused to put the dog in another room or outside. That dog is underfoot at every family get-together, and we know it’s simply another accident waiting to happen.

We’ve told the in-laws that if they can’t put the dog elsewhere when we visit, we will no longer come over. Now they are mad at us. Did we make the wrong decision? – Help in Pennsylvania

Dear Help: No. Your son’s welfare must come first. If the dog is likely to bite first and ask questions later, it makes sense to separate them until your son is old enough not to trigger such a reaction. If your in-laws won’t respect that, you are right to stay away. Be sure to invite the in-laws to visit in your home, without the dog, in order to minimize the hard feelings.