Dear Annie 3/7

Dear Annie: My granddaughter, 22, and I live in the same town. We had always had a good, loving relationship until I received a text from her mother, my ex-daughter-in-law, accusing me of committing something against my granddaughter and saying I was not to have contact with her ever again. I couldn’t respond because I was immediately blocked.

I’ve reached out through mail but have never gotten a response from my granddaughter or her mother. I’m at a total loss because I have no idea of what I supposedly did. As far as I know, there hasn’t been anything bad that’s happened to cause this reaction. I’ve tried to accept it and let go, but it still bothers me. I love and miss my granddaughter so much and fear I will never see her again. – Heartbroken Grandma

Dear Heartbroken Grandma: I am so sorry that you have that fear that you will never see your granddaughter again. The only way to understand what happened is to speak with your son. You could also try and reach out to your granddaughter, as she is an adult, and see why she is upset.

But at the end of the day, if someone doesn’t want to see you, the kindest thing you can do is respect their boundaries and hope that they come back in time. Just continue to communicate your love to her via your son or directly to her.

Dear Annie: This is in response to “Frustrated Peacemaker,” the woman whose husband constantly corrects her 80-year-old mom who has dementia. I recall the following training in a volunteer class:

Use “ACE”

A: Don’t argue.

C: Don’t correct.

E: Don’t explain.

It requires lots of vague agreement with the person suffering from dementia, or a simple “hmmm” is always useful. Hope this might help. – Peacemaker

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