Time to move out before he proposes

Dear Annie: I’ve been dating “Bob” for almost two years, and we moved in together a year ago. For the most part, it’s been OK. Eight months into our relationship, Bob gave me an STD that I will have for the rest of my life. He insists he never cheated, and although my doctor seemed skeptical, I decided it was possible he’d had the STD before he met me and just didn’t know.

However, Bob has done other things that disturb me. I found out he was looking at online adult websites. He also checks out Internet porn and lies about it. I know he used to go to strip clubs, but he claims he doesn’t do that anymore.

Bob says he loves me and we will never split up. But when I was working, he’d call twice a day, and it felt like he was checking up on me. If I go out with my friends, he jokingly asks how many guys I picked up. He seems very insecure about our relationship.

I do love him, but sometimes I feel as if I am dating him only to have a roof over my head. I’m currently unemployed, and moving out would be impossible. Do you think I should dump him now before something drastic happens, like he proposes or I get knocked up? Or should I enjoy my time with him and see whether the situation changes a year or so down the road? – Bummed and Confused

Dear Confused: We aren’t sure why you say you love Bob when you would rather break up than risk his proposing. We think you are staying for the rent money and are reluctant to deal with it. It’s unlikely Bob is going to improve with age. Start saving your pennies, and move out as soon as possible.