August 1, 2013 in Features

Annie’s Mailbox: He’s had it with controlling parents

Kathy Mitchell
 
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Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailbox@comcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254.

Dear Annie: I’m a senior in college and live at home. My parents, especially my father, are controlling and overly attached to me. I’ve had enough and am planning on moving away the second I graduate, but my family doesn’t seem to get this. They tell me about graduate schools and full-time job opportunities in or near our town. They’ve offered to let me live rent-free in the house if I stay in the area after college.

These “suggestions” are starting to pile up, and graduation seems so far away. I can’t let myself fall into the same trap that got me to stay with them at the start of college. How do I say I’m leaving for good? – Nobody’s Baby Boy

Dear Nobody: Your parents don’t “get it” because they see no indication that you are leaving anytime soon. They’ll believe it when it happens. While many kids would appreciate their parents’ offer to stay rent-free, we agree that you should strike out on your own. Loving parents guide their children to be independent. You don’t need to keep saying you are moving out. Simply save your money and find a place you can afford, in whatever city you prefer. Research job and educational opportunities. What you cannot do is expect your parents to cover your expenses when you no longer live at home. Good luck.


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