How and where to start dating

Dear Annie: I was overweight throughout most of my childhood and became morbidly obese after high school. When I was in college, I had terrible self-esteem and a horrible body image. I never dated.

Three years ago, I had gastric bypass and have since lost more than 200 pounds. I’ve been trying to start dating, but the individuals I have approached are either seeing someone else or are not interested. I tried online dating sites, but the men who responded all live far away, some in other countries, and I’m leery of proceeding. I am not sure about the bar scene and am unaware of any singles groups in my area.

So, I guess I would like some advice on how and where to start relationships. – Breaking Out of My Shell

Dear Breaking: There are better online dating sites that will match you up with men in your area (or at least in the same country). Try again. You also should ask your friends and relatives to introduce you to available men they know. Local churches and synagogues often have singles groups, and you should be able to attend some functions without having to be a member. Most importantly, project a confident, positive exterior. Smile. Guys like women who are fun to talk to. And while you are searching for a date, participate in activities that interest you. This will have the added benefit of making you more interesting to be around. Good luck.