Annie’s Mailbox: Father reneged on bill for party

Dear Annie: I had my high school graduation party at a local restaurant (because our house is too small). My father claimed he was unable to pay for it, and insisted I cover the bill, close to $1,100, saying he will pay me back later.

I realize that my parents’ business sometimes goes through hard times, but Dad still manages to eat out frequently. He’s terrible with money, and I am not sure he will ever pay me back. I told him that I expect complete repayment by the middle of August and if I don’t get it, I’ll start selling his vast collection of unused musical instruments. He doesn’t believe me.

I am paying for my first year of college through grants, scholarships, my savings and the money I earn from my job. I never expected anything from my parents because I know they can’t afford much. But I had no idea I was going to get stuck with the bill for the party. What do I do? – Farmer’s Daughter

Dear Daughter: Let’s not turn this into a major conflagration. Dad should not have stuck you with a bill for a party neither of you could afford. But selling his musical instruments isn’t the answer, either. Try to remain calm and work out a payment plan with Dad, in writing, with the amount he needs to pay each week until an agreed-upon total is reached.

It may take longer than mid-August, and you might also consider paying for part of the bill because the party was for you. But it’s better than the all-out war you are contemplating. We also suggest you involve your mother in this transaction since she, too, has a say in the family finances and may bring a more level head to the discussion.