Dear Annie 8/18

Dear Annie: We’re a group of about 10, older than 60 high school friends who get together for brunch or dinner annually around Christmastime. “Ronnie” will always make the reservations, send out the details and grab the check. She’ll simply divide for the number and ask everyone for that amount.

This most recent dinner, there were nine of us. The bill, before tip, came to $360. Many in the group had a drink, some ordered a second one, including top-shelf brands. Most had dessert. I don’t drink much, and I’m not into dessert. I ordered an entree that cost $17. We were each asked to pay $55. Needless to say, when the check is split, those who spend the least get taken advantage of the most.

This time, I did express my displeasure to Ronnie, but she quickly shot me down. Nobody else said anything.

Look, if it’s only a few dollars, I’m OK with easier math for everyone, but not when my share gets more than doubled. Mind you, I’m doing fine financially, so that’s not the issue. I would never ask someone to pay more to subsidize my drinks and dessert.

Any thoughts on how to handle this for next year? I’m tempted to drop out or even say I’ll only attend if we ditch the check splitting. – Split the Bill

Dear Split the Bill: I would bite your tongue and not say anything. It is a yearly occurrence, around the holidays, with friends you’ve known for at least the last 40 years. Look at this dinner as a kind gesture from you to your friends because you enjoy their company. As finances are not your concern, weigh the pros and cons for yourself. Is it worth saving $40 worth losing the memories you’d gain from attending the meal? Let this one go and focus your attention on the joy of being with your friends who you have known for so long. What a gift.

If this advice drives you nuts, however, you could always ask for a separate check. But don’t be surprised if your friends start calling you Scrooge.

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