Q: My husband I are expecting a baby boy in a couple of months. I'm Jewish, he's not, and we have strong disagreements about circumcision. It's a part of my culture, and I want to have a bris. My husband, however, feels strongly that circumcision is a form of mutilation. When we got married, we talked of blending our cultures and sharing our lives, but on this question there doesn't seem to be any compromise. Don't you think that since I'm doing the work of carrying the baby, I should get to choose? Steve: I hope you agreed before you married which religion your children will follow. Your husband needs to understand the importance of the bris. It may be the only mitzvah (commandment) observed by Jews of every affiliation, even those who are not very religious. If your husband has health concerns, he can talk to a pediatrician. Circumcision was routine for all male babies born from the mid-1800s to the 1970s.