Boys and Aggression
I grew up with two sisters so I’m pretty clueless when it comes to raising boys.
“Calling boys 'aggressive' is an attempt to punitively try and control behavior we are not comfortable with. We rarely use this word in a positive way, so when we start by calling boys' behavior 'aggressive' we are already prejudicing how we look at it. Children use their bodies and express their feelings by pushing, grabbing, and fighting. This is age-appropriate for young children — they are in the motor stage of development. Teachers and parents need to help children find ways to resolve these conflicts. But the problem isn't that boys have these impulses and interests; the problem is that we over-react.”
I'm probably over-reacting to what I perceive to be aggression. But I want my son to be a peace-loving, kind and respectful human being so his actions are sometimes really offensive to me.
What are your thoughts on boys and aggression? I'm especially curious about your perspective on pretend play and where you draw the line when it comes to games that involve war, death and violence? Thanks!